My vision for this post was to announce that my divorce is final, but unfortunately that is not the case. I was sent a letter from Edward Gangarosa who is assigned by the court to review the documents before being sent on to the judge. He wrote in the letter that I needed to file two more papers and then resubmit them. That sounds easy—although I was annoyed I figured it doesn’t take that much time and went to pick them up to file them.
When I picked them up there was a blank form, paper-clipped to the form I already completed. I was confused and asked the employees in the Supreme Court office if they knew what he meant by doing this (as this is not mentioned in this letter), and they were also confused. I decided to call Gangarosa for clarification to avoid any additional hold up. Well he said I needed to redo the form because the one I submitted was an old form that has been revised—ok, so why didn’t he say anything months ago? This paper has been completed since September and he is just now requiring this? He also seemed incredibly bothered that I am not seeking maintenance in the divorce. I told him that I’m sure he is used to women wanting every last dime from their ex, but I have everything already—everything I’ve worked for and care about. I’m no ordinary woman! I have zero desire for my ex’s retirement and want to just move on with my life. I was crying out of frustration and told him that I will resubmit this form (which also requires me to send it to the prison to be signed by my ex and notarized), but after this if he continues to pull this I will be writing a formal complaint. I really don’t like to pull that card, but I have had enough!
I’ve spoke to several people already who have shared similar stories and I will not allow him to abuse his position and prevent me from obtaining this divorce. I was also informed that I should write a letter to the attorney general, which I am considering. There is even a complaint online about him that is similar to my experience.
I wouldn’t mind if this was one time, but every time I submit the paperwork he writes me a letter of corrections that need to be made and when everything is fixed he finds something else. He has even stated that I did not include documents that were clearly there. Not to mention he is a lawyer, but has many grammatical and spelling errors in his letters.
The paperwork is sitting here on my table ready to be sent to the prison…God willing this will be the last paper I’m asked to re-submit.
I have been living my life mindful not to be negative and part of me struggles to understand why God is prolonging this—I do know I am where He wants me, and He is working things out even if I can’t see it.