What a fitting word for today’s prompt–final! Many of you have been along the journey with me as I obtain my uncontested divorce. Who would have thought an UNCONTESTED divorce would take so long?!?! There were many hold-ups all along the way, but I was able to learn quite a bit through it all. At one point I even researched the credits I would need to become a lawyer.
One major hurdle was the process the Monroe County Supreme Court has in place for people submitting paperwork to obtain a divorce. Ed Gangarosa was assigned the responsibility to review my paperwork prior to it being sent on to the judge and he caused frustration, confusion, and unnecessary obstacles. I actually never received a letter stating my paperwork had been signed off and ready for me to be picked up, which is a complaint many have about him. After being contacted by someone stating that they did not receive notification that their paperwork was ready I decided to give them a call and ask for a status update on mine. I was told my paperwork had been sitting there for weeks waiting for me to pick it up. They insisted Gangarosa sent a letter, but I’ve been stalking out my mailbox and nothing was sent! I picked it up that day (Monday), and immediately filed it with the County Clerk’s Office–so the divorce is FINAL! I can’t even put the feeling into words, but the sense of peace that overcomes you as you sing a favorite church hymn is the closest I can come to attempting to describe it.
I did take the time to write up a detailed letter of complaint to Gangarosa’s supervisor stating how difficult he made the process and how I was trying to remove myself from an abusive situation, but he made it even more difficult. I’m confident that if they conduct an investigation into his communication with people they will find that he needs to go! People of Monroe County deserve someone who will take that responsibility seriously!
Happily divorced and ready for what God has planned next.
Some previous posts about my divorce:
Rebuild: Divorcing a Pedophile
Blood, Sweat, and Tears
A Somber Week, Still I Shine
Trusting HIS Timing
Another Step Forward
via Daily Prompt: Final
My vision for this post was to announce that my divorce is final, but unfortunately that is not the case. I was sent a letter from Edward Gangarosa who is assigned by the court to review the documents before being sent on to the judge. He wrote in the letter that I needed to file two more papers and then resubmit them. That sounds easy—although I was annoyed I figured it doesn’t take that much time and went to pick them up to file them.
When I picked them up there was a blank form, paper-clipped to the form I already completed. I was confused and asked the employees in the Supreme Court office if they knew what he meant by doing this (as this is not mentioned in this letter), and they were also confused. I decided to call Gangarosa for clarification to avoid any additional hold up. Well he said I needed to redo the form because the one I submitted was an old form that has been revised—ok, so why didn’t he say anything months ago? This paper has been completed since September and he is just now requiring this? He also seemed incredibly bothered that I am not seeking maintenance in the divorce. I told him that I’m sure he is used to women wanting every last dime from their ex, but I have everything already—everything I’ve worked for and care about. I’m no ordinary woman! I have zero desire for my ex’s retirement and want to just move on with my life. I was crying out of frustration and told him that I will resubmit this form (which also requires me to send it to the prison to be signed by my ex and notarized), but after this if he continues to pull this I will be writing a formal complaint. I really don’t like to pull that card, but I have had enough!
I’ve spoke to several people already who have shared similar stories and I will not allow him to abuse his position and prevent me from obtaining this divorce. I was also informed that I should write a letter to the attorney general, which I am considering. There is even a complaint online about him that is similar to my experience.
I wouldn’t mind if this was one time, but every time I submit the paperwork he writes me a letter of corrections that need to be made and when everything is fixed he finds something else. He has even stated that I did not include documents that were clearly there. Not to mention he is a lawyer, but has many grammatical and spelling errors in his letters.
The paperwork is sitting here on my table ready to be sent to the prison…God willing this will be the last paper I’m asked to re-submit.
I have been living my life mindful not to be negative and part of me struggles to understand why God is prolonging this—I do know I am where He wants me, and He is working things out even if I can’t see it.