Tomorrow I will be returning to work after being on maternity leave and thought I should spend some time reflecting. The past eight weeks with our son have been an amazing adventure on many levels and trying to put it into words is impossible. It’s incredible what a newborn can teach you about yourself.
What I learned (or reminded of again)…
- Children grow in the blink of an eye, so cherishing the time is important!
I realized the most important role in my life right now is to be the best mother to the kids, and girlfriend to Craig. We are a solid unit and need to focus our energy on being the best for them. Cole is almost 16 and thinking about him moving out and on blows my mind…(and insert tears here). It seems like it wasn’t that long ago that he was a baby and I realize I have been wrapped up in other issues and concerns at times and may have not cherished the moments as much as I could have. The same for Autumn and McKinley.
- It’s ok to cry.
I’ve had quite the emotional awakening since Lincoln has been born. My heart has been softened and sometimes I cry just looking at him…and it’s ok!
- Don’t worry about the small things because children don’t care about them.
Children don’t care if you have spit up on your shirt, don’t have make-up on, and your hair is a mess. They will remember how you made them feel…so hold them a little longer, kiss them more, play that board game, watch the show they pick, listen when they are telling you their stories…
- Don’t worry about what you can’t control.
This can mean not becoming wrapped up in the family or friends who don’t act how you think they should. People will disappoint you all through life and instead of wasting the time on what a terrible person they are just focus on bettering yourself.
- One of the most powerful emotions is evoked when a baby smiles at you…or stares into your soul while holding him.
- Just how much happiness a baby can bring to a family!
We were already happy, but he has added so much more joy to our lives. Autumn was able to see his birth and was immediately bonded to him (even when he’s spitting up on her). Cole enjoys playing music for him when he’s fussy and needs calming. McKinley is never hesitant to pick him up and try to soothe him, and she loves giving him a bath, picking out his clothes, and dressing him (as long as I will put his diaper on). I’m one blessed momma!
- Breastfeeding is not as easy as many assume or how the media portrays, but it is extremely rewarding.
With breastfeeding comes moments of painful latching, cluster feeding, engorgement, doubts if your baby is receiving enough, painful clogged milk ducts, the discomfort of the let down, the need for larger shirts, and handling people who have a negative reaction when your child needs to eat. The look your child gives you while breastfeeding or when he falls asleep at the breast is rewarding…knowing that you overcame all the difficult obstacles to give him the best. It is a beautiful gift from God not only to create a baby, but to nourish one too—-a woman’s body is beyond amazing!
- Giving Lincoln formula is ok. I have been so focused on exclusively breastfeeding because that is what I have done in the past, but I had to come to realize that feeding him some formula is ok.
- Not all babies are the same.
Lincoln is different than Autumn, Cole, and McKinley…and I shouldn’t have expected him to be the same as I’m not even the same. He loves sleeping in his crib, loves laying on his changing table, pees and/or poops after you take his diaper off (be warned), his favorite place to be is eating in mommy and daddy’s bed, and loves taking baths!
- How blessed I am!
I have an amazing man who has supported and encouraged not only me, but my children as well. Watching him become a father has been a wonderful experience.
Tomorrow will be a bitter-sweet day for sure, but one thing is for sure…the past eight weeks have been pure happiness!